We are all familiar with
the experience of loneliness. Because each individual is unique, we all tend to feel lonely under different conditions. Some
of us will feel lonely when we are excluded from group activities, others, when we are deprived of building close one-to-one
relationships. Loneliness does not necessarily mean being alone. For example, you can feel lonely when you are in a class
with three hundred other students, in the middle of a party, or at a football game with hundreds of screaming spectators.
Loneliness is a painful awareness that you are not feeling connected to others and important needs are not being met.
Do You Feel:
Excluded from a group.
Unloved by those around you.
Alienated from your surroundings.
There is no one with whom to
share your personal concerns and experiences.
That you are alone and have no other choice. You find it difficult to make friends and go beyond mere acquaintance.
If you are lonely you may find yourself engaging in the following behaviors that
perpetuate the problem:
You experience low self-esteem. You
depend on your classmates and friends to build your self-esteem and to initiate activities, etc.
You blame yourself and other students for your
poor social relationships. You falsely assume that nobody likes you.
You do not make any attempt to get involved in social activities. You
expect everyone that you admire to like and include you in their activities and conversations. If they do not include you
in their social activities you may become more withdrawn, angry and isolated from other activities.
You become self-conscious and worry unnecessarily
about being evaluated by your instructors, classmates and peers.
You have difficulty engaging in assertive behavior. You are afraid to stand up
for your rights and say "no" to unreasonable requests.
You avoid meeting people and new situations. You have difficulty introducing yourself,
making telephone calls and participating in group activities.
You perceive yourself in a negative way. You become overly critical of your physical
appearance.
You
feel isolated, alone and unhappy about your situation.
What can describe loneliness better... talking without being heard or suffering without stirring
compassion?
So What Can talking to someone do for you? Talking
to someone can help you to come to terms with the changes in your life that time has brought about. It can help you to see things differently. And it can give you invaluable coping skills that can help you become
stronger and more resilient emotionally, at a time when emotions can run high, and when depression and desperation can set
in. It can give you a valuable insight into the reality of your situation and help you to learn a different way of looking
at things, a more positive way of thinking, that can put you in a better position to get on to that road to a happy more fulfilled
life.
Call now some one will be
eager to make friends and talk with you. Most importantly they will listen to what you’re saying. They may laugh with
you and at times they may cry with you..
Most of all the people at LifeSpan cares.
Steven Amos: Life Strategist
Steven Amos Is not only an approved LifeSpan Life Strategist, he is a great conversationalist. Steve likes
humor and folksy stories to create a friendly relationship almost instantly. baseball,Fishing, Hunting are but a few of his
interest. Steve is the type of person who everybody seems to enjoy. What does he know about being lonely? More than
enough to understand were your coming from. This linked with his ability to empathise with you makes him an ideal choice...
